I deserve this.
I earned it.
It’s my right.
A sense of entitlement. We see it in political debates about whether certain government benefits are a “gift” or have been earned.
It shows up in marriages and other relationships as individual people focus more on their rights than on the relationship.
We see it in our culture as people promote their own “right to privacy” over the sacredness of someone else’s life.
We even see it in our relationship with God, although we don’t always admit it.
But a sense of entitlement isn’t a new wrinkle in human development. Way back when the ancient Israelites left Egypt, their sense of entitlement was as strong as ours today. First they complained about a lack of food. Well, okay, I can understand a desire for daily sustenance in the middle of the desert. But after a year of God miraculously providing daily food in the form of manna, they complained about a lack of variety!
That account started me thinking. How often do I carry a sense of entitlement into my relationship with God? Of course, I don’t call it that. Instead, I say things such as:
It’s not fair!
Why did this have to happen to me?
When is this suffering going to end?
Fair? Where did we get the idea that our Creator and Redeemer is fair? Think about it. Innocent animals died to cover Adam and Eve’s sin, pointing to the time when the perfect, sinless Son of God would die in our place for our sin. If a relationship with God were based on fairness, we would not have a relationship with Him at all. Instead, our future would hold nothing but judgment.
Fair is not the same as good. God is good. He is perfect. And He is sovereign.
One of the names of our great God is Adonai, the sovereign Lord. It means He is in control. Because I’m a Christian, He is not only the sovereign Lord, He is my sovereign Lord.
Each time I complain about my circumstances, in effect I’m saying I know better than He does about what is best. That’s a bit arrogant on my part, isn’t it? My finite assessment versus the viewpoint of the infinite, sovereign Creator of the universe.
I may claim to trust God’s leading and provision, but I’m ashamed to say, too often I allow my situation to distract me from remembering His faithfulness. Like the ancient Israelites, I grumble and complain, not because I don’t believe He is Lord, but because I don’t like the circumstances my Lord has engineered for me.
The sense of entitlement I criticize in others is just as ugly in me.
The demand for my rights to be honored is just as conceited in me.
Worst of all, every time I complain about what the Lord has allowed in my life, I become arrogance personified.
But demanding what I deserve is not really what I want. Because if God were to give me what I deserve, it would mean living without the assurance of His salvation through Jesus Christ. The result would be spiritual death and eternal separation from Him. It would mean living without His indwelling Holy Spirit, His love, and His guidance, and everything else He provides to His children.
I may be foolish at times, but I’m not stupid. I don’t want what’s fair. And I don’t want what I deserve. Thankfully, in God’s mercy and grace, He doesn’t give me what I deserve. And that’s just fine with me.
I agree Ava! Thank You for reminding us that we really don’t want what we deserve, but we want God’s Mercy and Grace!
Thank you, Robin.
Thank you Ava. God bless!
Thanks, Deb. Still praying for your healing!
Praying for you Ava.
Thank you, Melissa.
Thanks Ava! So easy to see it in others and so wrenching to admit it in myself! Yea for Grace!
Me, too, Pat!
I have had similar discussions with myself! I find myself offering the Lord suggestions on how He should do things (just bring that perfect Christian friend for my son – then he will follow you!) ugh! How arrogant.
Thanks for reminding me to check myself on this one!
A reminder for me, too, Beth!
Praying for you and praising Him for these powerful words I needed to hear. God has been dealing with anger in my life; he’s revealed that my sense of unfairness is the root of much of his anger. Is it fair that your husband and my best friend died? No but the cross isn’t fair either. Powerful words, sister. Much love and appreciation.
Thank you, Candice. Things may not always seem fair, but our God is always good!
Great truths, Ava!
Beautifully said, Ava! Hard things are never something we can escape. Life wasn’t meant to be fair. When we can lean on God in the most difficult circumstances, when we feel most alone and devastated, it’s the best way we can love Him and also find comfort. Thank God we are promised a joyful eternal life in heaven after our earthly life is over.
Yes, Jessica, we do have the promise of a joyful eternal life!
God bless, Ava, and bring you comfort and healing. Thanks for this post to encourage us.
Thank you, Nancy.
Thanks for this post. It is a great check to see where we are in our walk and to ensure that we don’t fall into a false sense of entitlement.
Ava, it’s pretty convicting when we see those hidden areas in our heart that reveal a sense of entitlement. I’ve caught myself tripping into some those mindsets. God has a way of reminding me that He’s sovereign. His ways are higher than mine. So, when I don’t understand, I try to keep my thoughts fixed on what’s true about Him.